Most everyone would say that they want to be independent and remain in their own homes as long as possible. This sense of autonomy can be kept in place longer than ever before due to medical advances, assistive devices, and in-home care provided by family members and private caretakers. However, what happens when an elder can no longer remain safely in their home and an adult child is trying to get them the help they need?
Esther is 89 years old. She has lived alone since the death of her husband 23 years ago. She gave up driving two years ago, but is regularly visited by her children and grandchildren, who take care of errands or drive her to handle things herself. Lately, she has been rather unsteady on her feet. Additionally, she has been very forgetful and once left the stove on all night. She is also having trouble remembering to take her medications. There were so many her daughter, Susan, sorts them every week into a pill box. Esther still forgets to take them and sometimes actually doubles up on doses. Susan can see its time for more help but Esther is adamant about not having strangers in the house and doesn’t want to end up in “one of those places…”
Many times, elders resent their adult children trying to help them. In the elderly parents mind, they are still independent and completely able to handle their own affairs. In the above example, Esther does not appreciate her daughter’s suggestion that they bring in some private home care, or that her mother visit an assisted living facility or rest home. She feels her children are being too pushy, and trying to take control.
But on the other side, Susan feels that Esther isn’t thinking clearly anymore. She is extremely hurt by her mother’s attitude and reaction. After all, Susan is just trying to help.
The parent/child roles have been reversed, except unlike with young children, the adult child does not have the automatic right to make decisions for the elderly parent. Unless the child seeks to declare the parent incapacitated through a court ordered Guardianship or Conservatorship, or has the parent’s Health Care Proxy and/or Durable Power of Attorney activated, the child has to realize that in the eyes of the law, the parent may make their own decisions. And, unfortunately, people are allowed to make bad decisions. However, it is important that the adult child watch the situation carefully and not get frustrated and leave the parent to their own devices. Assisting does not mean taking over against their parent’s will.
Too many children have simply given up when their “help” is not accepted. If one finds themselves in that situation, they can contact our office for assistance and suggestions for getting through to the parent, discussing the possible need for Guardianship, ensuring that the elder’s estate planning documents are in order, scheduling a medical evaluation, and/or perhaps referral to a geriatric care manager where appropriate.
The elderly years can be as challenging as the terrible twos, terrible terrible teens, and even the terrible twenties. Elderly parents must be respected by the adult child who is trying to help, even if the parent/child roles have truly been reversed.
Some people think that Elder Law and Estate Planning attorneys are only useful further down the road. They think, “I’m healthy. I don’t need to worry about those things now.” Even while you are healthy, there is one document that everyone over the age of 18 should have in place: a Health Care Proxy (HCP). A health care proxy is necessary to ensure that someone, a health care agent, will be available to make medical decisions for you if you are unable to make them on your own because you are incapacitated. Currently, in Worcester County, another form is also worth considering: the Medical Orders for Life-Sustaining Treatment (MOLST) form. This medical order works with the HCP to inform your health care agent and your doctors what you actually want to happen in various circumstances.
In April 2008, the Massachusetts Health Care Quality and Cost Council (MHCQCC) issued its annual report recommending that Massachusetts establish a pilot program to improve communication between patients and clinicians, and other interested parties, regarding end of life treatments. The MHCQCC found that many patients nearing the end of life were unaware of the treatment options available to them, or, if patients had been aware of such treatment options and had discussed them with their doctors previously, nothing was in place to ensure that their preferences were honored. Therefore, the Massachusetts legislature enacted legislation in August 2008 establishing a demonstrative program for the MOLST process in one community in Massachusetts: Worcester. (Yay, Worcester!)
The MOLST form is fairly simple and easy to read; the most difficult part is actually making the decisions and putting them down on paper. The form is only two pages long, and only two sections must be completed in order for the form to be honored. These two sections are Section D (patient information – specifically who is signing the document on behalf of the patient) and Section E (physician information). In Section D, it is possible for the patient, the patient’s health care proxy, or the patient’s guardian to sign on his or her behalf. If a guardian is signing for the patient, the guardian must ensure that s/he has the legal authority under the guardian appointment to do so. This may require consultation with the patient or guardian’s Elder Law attorney.
If any other section of the form is not filled out, the health care agent is not limited in his or her decisions for life-sustaining treatment for the patient. Sections A, B, C, and F ask the difficult questions regarding resuscitation, intubation and ventilation, hospitalization, respiratory support, dialysis support, and artificial nutrition and hydration. It is critical that you speak with a physician before making these decisions so that you fully understand the meanings of the terms used and the potential consequences. Once these sections are filled out, they must be honored by all health care professions in Massachusetts, where clinically appropriate. The MOLST form is different from a Living Will or another document expressing your “final wishes” because it carries more authority and is more likely to be honored. A Living Will or final wishes document is only used by health care professionals to keep your wishes in mind when making decisions about treatment. While the MOLST form is not currently legally binding, health care professionals are strongly encouraged by the state to honor it.
Finally, Section G simply asks for the contact information of the health care agent. There is also room on the form for other treatment preferences, in which you can more clearly articulate your wishes. There is an expectation that the form will be reviewed throughout the patient’s life so that if his or her preferences change, those preferences will still be honored.
On February 4, 2010, the House of Representatives in Massachusetts amended and approved a bill dealing with safe driving in the Commonwealth. If passed by the Massachusetts Senate, this bill will have a direct impact on the senior citizens of Massachusetts because it will require drivers over the age of 75 to renew their licenses every 5 years instead of every 10 years.
Issues concerning elderly driving have been in the news on and off for many years now, but after a series of accidents involving elder drivers last year, the state legislature is looking to make some changes. The current bill does not just involve seniors though. It also seeks to completely ban text messaging by all drivers, and it provides for higher penalties for drivers under the age of 18 who are caught using cell phones while driving.
For seniors, the requisite 5-year renewal will include passing a vision test that will be administered at the local branch of the registry of motor vehicles. However, the bill would permit the registrar to create regulations allowing seniors to submit a vision screening certificate, signed by an optometrist or ophthalmologist that asserts they meet the minimum vision requirements to hold a driver’s license.
This bill further seeks to allow health care providers to notify the registry of anyone over the age of 16 whose cognitive or functional impairments make it unsafe for them to drive. Decisions regarding whether to revoke a license will depend more on the effects of the cognitive or functional impairment, rather than simply on the diagnosis of such impairment. More detailed regulations will be drafted by the registry with the assistance of various health care professionals, and any reports filed under this section of the proposed law would remain confidential.
Finally, this bill seeks to codify a rule that drivers of any passenger vehicle shall not use mobile telephones, hands-free mobile telephones, or any other mobile electronic devices while driving on duty.This section was drafted in response to the rising number of accidents involving the T in recent years where drivers were text messaging, or using mobile electronic devices in other ways.
Now that the House has published and amended the safe driving bill, it moves on to the Senate Committee on Ways and Means. State Senator Stephen M. Brewer, is one member of the Ways and Means Committee, and he represents parts of Worcester, Hampden, Hampshire, and Franklin. If you are interested in voicing your opinion on this bill, call Mr. Brewer at (617) 722-1540, or email him at Stephen.Brewer@state.ma.us.Click here for the full text of the current bill.
Last night I spoke at the Lutheran Health Care Center in Worcester. One attendee asked, “How often should I review my current estate plan?” It is very important to review your family’s financial and estate plan at least every 3-5 years. The general rule is that the older you are, the more frequent your reviews should be.
Another way to determine when you should schedule a review is when you or your family is/will be experiencing a major life event. Some examples of major life events include:
Marriage (yourself or your child)
Divorce (yourself or your child)
Birth of a child or grandchild
Death of a spouse or child
Change jobs with significant increase or decrease in income
Retirement
Purchase new/additional real estate
You move to another state or country
Start, close, or sell a business
Major Illness or disability of self, spouse, or child
Life Insurance/annuities
Wanting to make major gifts to friends, family, and/or charity
Major change in tax law
So, how are you supposed to keep track of “major changes in tax law?” Don’t worry. That’s where I come in. Every time there is a major change in a tax or estate planning law thay may effect your estate plan, I’ll send a letter out to you informing you of the change and suggest an estate plan review. Additionally, you’ll receive a similar letter if I haven’t sat down with you in the last five years.
As more major life events, how can I keep track of when ALL my clients have a baby, get divorced, change jobs, retire, etc. I’d love to, however, simply put, I can’t. That’s where you come in. Always remember to keep your estate planning and elder law attorney informed when major life events occur. That way I can determine if a review is necessary for your particular situation.
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Esther is 89 years old. She has lived alone since the death of her husband 23 years ago. She gave up driving two years ago, but is regularly visited by her children and grandchildren, who take care of errands or drive her to handle things herself. Lately, she has been rather unsteady on her feet. Additionally, she has been very forgetful and once left the stove on all night. She is also having trouble remembering to take her medications. There were so many her daughter, Susan, sorts them every week into a pill box. Esther still forgets to take them and sometimes actually doubles up on doses. Susan can see its time for more help but Esther is adamant about not having strangers in the house and doesn’t want to end up in “one of those places…”
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June 3, 2011 10:39 am | 
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For seniors, the requisite 5-year renewal will include passing a vision test that will be administered at the local branch of the registry of motor vehicles. However, the bill would permit the registrar to create regulations allowing seniors to submit a vision screening certificate, signed by an optometrist or ophthalmologist that asserts they meet the minimum vision requirements to hold a driver’s license.