Hoarding: How to Help a Loved One Declutter

The issue of hoarding has recently gathered a great deal of attention, particularly due to news reports and popular television shows.  However, hoarding is not a new or a small problem. The problem of hoarding has been documented since the turn of the century and is thought to significantly affect nearly 15 million Americans, many of them elderly. A great article recently appeared in the Boston Hearald dealing with the clinical aspects of Hoarding.  Unfortunately, research has been lacking in this area – until now.

On July 14, 2010, a Bellingham, Massachusetts couple and their dog were found dead in their home.  The ultimate factor in their deaths: hoarding.  Authorities deduced that 75-year-old Richard Lamphere tripped on a pile of trash, fell on top of his wife, 62-year-old Susan Abraham and one of their dogs.  Lamphere died instantly from head injuries; Abraham was severely injured in the fall and died later from her wounds.  Police confirmed that the couple were hoarders.  They had trash and belongings piled everywhere inside their home.  The conditions were uninhabitable and clearly unsafe. For the full story, see this article.

When assessing the severity of a loved one’s hoarding situation, several questions are important to remember:

• Can the occupant access doors in case of an emergency?
• Does he have access to the kitchen to prepare and store food?
• Can he access the bathroom facilities? Can the bathtub/shower be utilized?
• Can the resident safely reach their bed or have they made other sleeping arrangements?
• Are the home’s mechanical systems in working order (electrical, plumbing, heating)?
• Are pets being cared for?
• What health hazards are present (mold, decaying food, bodily waste, etc.)

If the basic needs of an occupant cannot be met, then it is time to consider intervention.

The difficulty with trying to help a hoarder is that most of them do not seek or want any “help”.  In fact, hoarders typically do not comprehend that they actually have a problem.  Thus, attempts to “clean out” or assist a loved one in “tidying up” his or her home should be done with care and patience.  And, although perhaps difficult, refrain from making judgments.

Tips to aiding someone who hoards include encouraging them and helping them establish new relationships.  Gently remind them that their grandchildren will be able to come and visit if they clean their house.  Perhaps it is time to participate in a local community activity for seniors.  If they are busy with other activities or plans, then getting rid of “stuff” may seem less consequential to them.  Many local companies specialize in professional, home organziation and cleanouts. Additionally, you may look into a hiring a certified home maker a few hours a week to keep up with housework and tackle clutter habits.

As a last resort, do not be afraid to contact the authorities or professional help.  Let someone else be the “bad guy”.  The story of a local hoarder who has made progress over the years can be found here.

Finally, a temporary or limited Guardianship may be necessary, at least until improvements can be made for the individual’s overall safety.   For more information and advice contact your local Elder Services or area Agency/Council on Aging.

Affordable Care Act: More Affordable AND more Effective Health Care for Seniors

What does the new, federal health care law, the Affordable Care Act, mean for seniors? How will it affect Medicare recipients? Throughout the health care reform debate of the past few years, Medicare has been a significant issue. The Affordable Care Act (“Act”), the law passed by Congress and signed by President Obama this spring, seeks to provide better quality and more affordable care to seniors and Medicare recipients.

To make health care more affordable for seniors, the Act addresses the Medicare Part D prescription drug coverage gap, otherwise known as the “donut hole.” In 2007, over 8 million seniors fell into the “donut hole” and could not receive coverage for their prescription drugs. Under the Act, any seniors who fall into the donut hole this year will receive a $250 rebate check from the government. In 2011, the Act institutes a 50 percent discount on all prescriptions drugs in the “donut hole,” and by 2020, the Act will completely close that gap.

Starting in 2011, the Act provides for free wellness checkups as a preventive care measure. It also eliminates all deductibles, copayments, and other cost-sharing for preventive care in Medicare, in an effort to make preventive care more accessible and attractive to seniors with modest means. The Act also creates a voluntary, long-term care insurance program that will provide a cash benefit to seniors and people with disabilities seeking certain types of long-term care that will allow them to stay in their homes.

In other efforts to make health care more affordable for seniors, the Act will reduce unwarranted subsidies to insurance companies by putting Medicare Advantage payments more in line with the costs of Medicare programs. This will ultimately save Medicare more than $150 billion over the next 10 years. The Act also seeks to reduce fraud and waste within the health care system by expanding the efforts the Department of Health and Human Services and the Department of Justice have already made in the past few years, and giving law enforcement officers more authority to crack down on those engaging in health care fraud. In fiscal year 2009, $2.51 billion acquired through these anti-fraud efforts was deposited in the Medicare Trust Fund, a 29 percent increase over fiscal year 2008. This Act provides more tools to continue and expand the anti-fraud efforts already in place, saving Medicare recipients billions of dollars in the coming years.

The Act does not only seek to make health care more affordable; it also seeks to make health care more effective for seniors. To achieve this goal, the Act seeks to improve the quality of care seniors receive in nursing homes and other long-term care facilities. It creates a standardized form for filing complaints with the State concerning long-term care facilities, and it requires states to develop and implement resolution processes for these complaints. It also establishes a program for national and State background checks of all long-term care facilities employees that have direct access to patients.

This entry is only a brief summary of various parts of the new law. More information can be found here. Current Medicare recipients will be receiving an informational brochure in the next few weeks regarding these programs.

Astor Matter Reminds Us that Trustworthiness is Essential When Nominating Substitute Decision Makers

Lately, the matter of Brooke Astor’s estate has been covered in the media. Like many people she had an estate plan in place which included a Durable Power of Attorney and Health Care Proxy, which nominated subsituted decision makers in the event she would lose the capacity to make important financial and/or medical decisions at some point during her elder years. She did not want to burden her family with obtaining a Guardianship and/or Conservatorship through the courts. She did end up suffering from Alzheimer’s disease and her son took over her financial powers. He just didn’t do a very good job…

The following is an exerpt from this week’s AZCentral.

Anyone who has signed a financial document has to be squirming a bit over Brooke Astor’s estate case.

Her son, Anthony Marshall, recently was convicted of stealing millions of dollars from Astor while she suffered from Alzheimer’s disease before her death. Although the case largely centered on a contested will purportedly signed by Astor, other estate-planning issues also came into play.

One was a financial power of attorney signed by Astor that gave Marshall authority to direct her affairs if she became incapacitated – and the means to steal from her.

The episode provides a wake-up call for people who use financial powers of attorney. These legal documents can be highly effective in ensuring that someone else will be around to handle financial matters for you if you’re alive but unable to do so – as in the case of mental incapacity.

A power of attorney can be as short as a page or much longer, depending on the detail desired. They’re often included with a trust, will, health power of attorney (addressing medical issues) and other estate-planning documents.

For all the benefits of using a power of attorney to avoid a potential court-supervised conservator situation, there are pitfalls, too.

In particular, you need to trust the person whom you designate to act on your behalf. And you should make sure he or she is responsible, diligent and reasonably astute.

“They really are documents that people should pay attention to,” said Denise McClain, a financial principal and attorney at wealth-management firm Lowry Hill in Scottsdale. “You’re potentially passing along a lot of power.”

Senior Centers:The Importance Elders Staying Active & Social

I’ve been trying to come up with a new slogan for area senior centers. So far I’ve come up with Senior Centers: come for the free food, stay for the crafts! or Senior Centers: It’s WAY more than BINGO!

But seriously, senior centers offer independence for aging adults. They play a very important role in the lives of elders today by encouraging them to become and remain social.

Socializing can help seniors with depression, dementia, or alzheimers. I know, you will say, Mom or Dad will not go to a senior center. Then make it easy for them. Go along with your parent for the day. Make it an outing and then take them to lunch. In most communities any aging adult who is 60 years old or older can join a senior center. You can also see the things that a senior center has to offer that Mom or Dad might be interested in or enjoy.   Knowing that your parent is at a center, or on an escorted day-trip can reduce the stress and anxiety you may have about your parents sitting home watching television all day or being alone. The main thing is to get them out and about.

Senior centers allow elders to develop a social network by making and meeting new friends. Senior centers offer programs and services like crafts, bingo, fitness, dances classes, travel to museums, computer classes, health screenings, informational speakers, daily meals, birthday luncheons to celebrate each member’s birthday and much more. Many senior centers also offer outings to do things such as live performances, fall foliage tours, and tours of Newport Mansions. Your loved one gets out of house, has an opportunity to socialize, while getting some light exercise and enjoying a good meal with great friends. Each senior center usually publishes a monthly calendar with a schedule of daily activities or programs.

To get your elder started, sign them up at your local center and tell them that they do not need to go everyday. They can start once a week, playing bingo, let’s say. This way they will not feel pressured. You will see that before you know it, Mom and/or Dad will be visiting the senior center on a daily basis. Suddenly catching up on their favorite television program may not be a priority anymore. (But hey, that’s what TiVo is for!)

So what if your parent/loved suffers from Alzheimers/Dementia and is too far gone to meaninfully participate at a Senior Center? Why not explore Adult Day options? These programs offer the socialization that some say is vital to keeping the disease at bay while also providing a safe, secure environment, specifically catered to your parent’s needs.

Check out this listing of Worcester area senior centers.

Thank you to Senior Living for contributing material for this blog.

Elder Mediation: A Great Option to Diffuse Family Tensions When Planning for Elder Care

Can’t we all just get along?  

I see it more and more and it really saddens me: families unable to “get along” when it comes to decision making for elder loved ones. It can be as simple as whether Mom and/or Dad need to meet with an Elder Law Attorney, to concerns over finances and inheritance issues, to whether siblings agree on who should serve as primary caregiver, and/or to whether assisted living/nursing home care is necessary.

Often as family members age, family dynamics can become more complicated. Conflicts that have simmered below the surface can boil up and make conversation impossible. Sometimes the elders are involved in the discussions, but unfortuntately sometime they are too far gone to meaninfully participate.

Either way, even the most harmonized family can sometimes hit a bad note or two and require some assistance.

(Dun, dun, dun, dun!) Enter the Elder Mediator. Mediation provides an opportunity for the Elder and all concerned members of the family to participate in creating a thoughtful plan for future. In most cases Elder Law Attorneys can act as Elder Mediators with certain issues. However the scope of the disagreements can often rest in other issues that are not related to the elder law topic. An Elder Mediator, working closely with your Elder Law Attorney, is trained to assist families in identifying the real issues, separating them from the crucial issues of planning for elder care, and developing the best plan of care.

National Public Radio has recognized the usefulness of elder mediation for families dealing with aging issues.

As baby boomers age and options for their care increase, we will all face many difficult choices concerning how we handle transitions during our elders’ declining years. Families will have to be able to evaluate resources, options and develop flexible strategies to support their elders. Even when not legally competent to make decisions, it is important to include an elder’s wishes and expressed preferences when putting a plan into place. Elder mediation is a rational first step for families to help them address their changing needs while enhancing problem solving/communications skills and avoiding messy litigation.

Major Life Events Provide an Opportunity for your Estate Plan Review

Last night I spoke at the Lutheran Health Care Center in Worcester. One attendee asked, “How often should I review my current estate plan?” It is very important to review your family’s financial and estate plan at least every 3-5 years. The general rule is that the older you are, the more frequent your reviews should be.

Another way to determine when you should schedule a review is when you or your family is/will be experiencing a major life event. Some examples of major life events include:

• Marriage (yourself or your child)
• Divorce (yourself or your child)
• Birth of a child or grandchild
• Death of a spouse or child
• Change jobs with significant increase or decrease in income
• Retirement
• Purchase new/additional real estate
• You move to another state or country
• Start, close, or sell a business
• Major Illness or disability of self, spouse, or child
• Life Insurance/annuities
• Wanting to make major gifts to friends, family, and/or charity
• Major change in tax law

So, how are you supposed to keep track of “major changes in tax law?” Don’t worry. That’s where I come in. Every time there is a major change in a tax or estate planning law thay may effect your estate plan, I’ll send a letter out to you informing you of the change and suggest an estate plan review. Additionally, you’ll receive a similar letter if I haven’t sat down with you in the last five years.

As more major life events, how can I keep track of when ALL my clients have a baby, get divorced, change jobs, retire, etc. I’d love to, however, simply put, I can’t. That’s where you come in. Always remember to keep your estate planning and elder law attorney informed when major life events occur. That way I can determine if a review is necessary for your particular situation.

Why I Also Make Housecalls

While some clients book traditional consultations at my office, I always make myself available for home visits with my clients. While the idea of a housecall has gone the way of black & white televisions, I find that meeting clients in their home, on their “turf,” helps make what is usually an emotional process, a bit more comfortable. In their home, clients tend to be more relaxed and at ease. The conversation goes a different way and I can sense the pride they have in sharing their home with someone. Coffee and tea flow more easily and taste better from your favorite mug than a styrofoam cup.

As an elder law attorney, our conversation eventually moves to the business at hand and it’s much much easier for a client to get an idea of what they’ll be leaving behind if the items are right there. Important paperwork is never forgotten as it’s right where the client always keeps it. Clients tend to be more thoughtful and less distracted when in a familiar environment. With so much legal language to deal with, it’s better for a client to be relaxed and more attentive.

Ultimately, a home visit allows me to get to know my client and understand their needs better. It gives me the chance to be attentive to them without outside distraction. With seniors, I can also see their current state of living, if they have all the things they need and maybe attend to some previously unaddressed issues. What many might see as a bother – a housecall – I consider an honor and a blessing.