Why Single People in Worcester County Should Consider Estate Planning

When we typically think of estate planning, we see grandma and grandpa putting together a Will and possibly setting up some trusts for the following generations. It’s all about providing for our offspring, right?

Not necessarily. Even if you are single and/or have no children, a Worcester Wills and Estates lawyer like Attorney Kristina Vickstrom should still be in your plans. Why? Because estate planning is really about YOU.

While it is absolutely advisable for married people or those with children to work with an estate planning lawyer, it’s also just as important for single adults. After all, when a married person suffers a major illness, it’s usually pretty clear who will eventually take on their medical and financial responsibility. The water gets murkier for unmarried individuals.

If you were to suddenly become incapacitated, who would make your medical decisions for you? Possibly your parents would be called in to determine how your medical care should proceed. It might be your sibling. But what if you don’t get along with your brother? Even if your parent or sibling would be your first choice, that doesn’t mean that the courts would agree without having your wishes legally documented.

The person to make medical and financial decision on your behalf is whomever the courts decide! Again, it could be a parent, a sibling, some other relative, or even a court-appointed individual (a stranger!). While she was not single when she was hit with dementia, the children of the late signer, Etta James, fought repeatedly with their step-father over the management of her assets and health care. James should have documented her wishes and avoided a lot of the conflict, allowing her family to more fully enjoy her last moments.

Finally, who would have legal rights to your belongings, to your home, to your pets? You may think you know the answers, but without clearly outlining your wishes with a Worcester area Wills and Trusts attorney, you have very little control over the matter. Families can be torn apart by court battles involving an estate with no Will. Popular Swedish novelist Stieg Larsson, who died unexpectedly in 2004, had been living with his girlfriend of 30 years at his passing and had taken on no estate planning. A legal battlefield erupted over his assets, namely the rights to his successful publications. With the exception of an unfinished manuscript on a shared laptop, his girlfriend walked away with nothing and Larsson’s father and brother inherited everything. This also could have been avoided, or lessened, if Larsson had set up even the most basic of estate plans.

A single adult without children does not need to worry about creating guardianships and trusts to provide for his or her children, but it’s certainly a good idea to look out for yourself. Some of the basic legal documents any single person should have include:

• A Will to determine what will become of your assets in the event of your death.
• A Health Care Proxy to name the person you want making medical decisions on your behalf.
• A Power of Attorney for financial matters to name the person you feel should be responsible for your money if you are incapacitated.
• And possibly a revocable living trust to centralize management of assets if you become incapacitated and keep your assets out of probate if you should pass away.

These documents are crucial in ensuring that your wishes are met and that you have control over your future. One doesn’t need to a famous R&B singer or best-selling, author to need an estate plan. Everyone, including single people, in Worcester County, should consider estate planning.  Contact Vickstrom Law today to set up a consultation or to find out more information.

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Hoarding: How to Help a Loved One Declutter

The issue of hoarding has recently gathered a great deal of attention, particularly due to news reports and popular television shows.  However, hoarding is not a new or a small problem. The problem of hoarding has been documented since the turn of the century and is thought to significantly affect nearly 15 million Americans, many of them elderly. A great article recently appeared in the Boston Hearald dealing with the clinical aspects of Hoarding.  Unfortunately, research has been lacking in this area – until now.

On July 14, 2010, a Bellingham, Massachusetts couple and their dog were found dead in their home.  The ultimate factor in their deaths: hoarding.  Authorities deduced that 75-year-old Richard Lamphere tripped on a pile of trash, fell on top of his wife, 62-year-old Susan Abraham and one of their dogs.  Lamphere died instantly from head injuries; Abraham was severely injured in the fall and died later from her wounds.  Police confirmed that the couple were hoarders.  They had trash and belongings piled everywhere inside their home.  The conditions were uninhabitable and clearly unsafe. For the full story, see this article.

When assessing the severity of a loved one’s hoarding situation, several questions are important to remember:

• Can the occupant access doors in case of an emergency?
• Does he have access to the kitchen to prepare and store food?
• Can he access the bathroom facilities? Can the bathtub/shower be utilized?
• Can the resident safely reach their bed or have they made other sleeping arrangements?
• Are the home’s mechanical systems in working order (electrical, plumbing, heating)?
• Are pets being cared for?
• What health hazards are present (mold, decaying food, bodily waste, etc.)

If the basic needs of an occupant cannot be met, then it is time to consider intervention.

The difficulty with trying to help a hoarder is that most of them do not seek or want any “help”.  In fact, hoarders typically do not comprehend that they actually have a problem.  Thus, attempts to “clean out” or assist a loved one in “tidying up” his or her home should be done with care and patience.  And, although perhaps difficult, refrain from making judgments.

Tips to aiding someone who hoards include encouraging them and helping them establish new relationships.  Gently remind them that their grandchildren will be able to come and visit if they clean their house.  Perhaps it is time to participate in a local community activity for seniors.  If they are busy with other activities or plans, then getting rid of “stuff” may seem less consequential to them.  Many local companies specialize in professional, home organziation and cleanouts. Additionally, you may look into a hiring a certified home maker a few hours a week to keep up with housework and tackle clutter habits.

As a last resort, do not be afraid to contact the authorities or professional help.  Let someone else be the “bad guy”.  The story of a local hoarder who has made progress over the years can be found here.

Finally, a temporary or limited Guardianship may be necessary, at least until improvements can be made for the individual’s overall safety.   For more information and advice contact your local Elder Services or area Agency/Council on Aging.

Letting Software or Online Service Plan Your Estate: Is It Worth the Risk?

There are several websites that offer customized, do-it-yourself wills and other estate planning documents. These computer-based services appear to offer the consumer a cost-effective and convenient alternative to visiting an Estate
Planning or Elder Law attorney. Or do they? Is online estate planning worth the convenience and initial savings? How do the documents created compare to those that a qualified attorney would produce?

To answer these questions, ElderLawAnswers asked two experienced Estate Planning and Elder Law attorneys to evaluate three leading online will preparation and estate planning programs: Nolo’s Online Will, BuildaWill, and LegalZoom. Their findings and ElderLawAnswers’ conclusions are presented in a five-page whitepaper that is available for free on ElderLawAnswers website.

The conclusion: “We conclude that while online estate planning could possibly work for people who have little or no property, small savings or investments, and a traditional family tree, the significant remainder of the population should not rest easy using one of these programs and should instead consult with a qualified Estate Planning attorney. In other words, in all but the most commonplace Estate Planning situations (and only an attorney can determine what is “commonplace”), do-it-yourself estate planning programs can be a risky, and often quite costly, substitute for in-person planning with an experienced estate planning attorney.”

I encourage you to read the whitepaper and see for yourself. Common issues with these type of estate plans include oversimplification. For example they do not explain the complexities of naming too many decision makers to serve at the same time, nor do they explain why a minor child or an elder parent may not be a good choice to name as an agent. They often overlook tax laws. Its important to remember that each State’s probate laws and tax laws vary. Further, mixed marriage situations are never a good fit for these programs. Additionally, users may miss powerful opportunities to sheild a child’s inheritance or plan for a special needs child. Finally, there is the issue of liability. Who do you hold accountable if a mistake was made?

In my office alone, I have several consultations per month where I assist clients in backing out of poorly drafted, do-it-yourself estate plans, and into something that makes sense for them and their families. Its very important to remember that there are no one-size-fits-all when it comes to planning one’s estate but that the utmost care should be placed in choosing the right person (Estate Planning or Elder Law Attorney) to help you, and not the right computer program.

More Protection Than a Health Care Proxy Alone?! MOLST- a Pilot Program in Worcester

Some people think that Elder Law and Estate Planning attorneys are only useful further down the road. They think, “I’m healthy. I don’t need to worry about those things now.” Even while you are healthy, there is one document that everyone over the age of 18 should have in place: a Health Care Proxy (HCP). A health care proxy is necessary to ensure that someone, a health care agent, will be available to make medical decisions for you if you are unable to make them on your own because you are incapacitated. Currently, in Worcester County, another form is also worth considering: the Medical Orders for Life-Sustaining Treatment (MOLST) form. This medical order works with the HCP to inform your health care agent and your doctors what you actually want to happen in various circumstances.

In April 2008, the Massachusetts Health Care Quality and Cost Council (MHCQCC) issued its annual report recommending that Massachusetts establish a pilot program to improve communication between patients and clinicians, and other interested parties, regarding end of life treatments. The MHCQCC found that many patients nearing the end of life were unaware of the treatment options available to them, or, if patients had been aware of such treatment options and had discussed them with their doctors previously, nothing was in place to ensure that their preferences were honored. Therefore, the Massachusetts legislature enacted legislation in August 2008 establishing a demonstrative program for the MOLST process in one community in Massachusetts: Worcester. (Yay, Worcester!)

The MOLST form is fairly simple and easy to read; the most difficult part is actually making the decisions and putting them down on paper. The form is only two pages long, and only two sections must be completed in order for the form to be honored. These two sections are Section D (patient information – specifically who is signing the document on behalf of the patient) and Section E (physician information). In   Section D, it is possible for the patient, the patient’s health care proxy, or the patient’s guardian to sign on his or her behalf. If a guardian is signing for the patient, the guardian must ensure that s/he has the legal authority under the guardian appointment to do so. This may require consultation with the patient or guardian’s Elder Law attorney.

If any other section of the form is not filled out, the health care agent is not limited in his or her decisions for life-sustaining treatment for the patient. Sections A, B, C, and F ask the difficult questions regarding resuscitation, intubation and ventilation, hospitalization, respiratory support, dialysis support, and artificial nutrition and hydration. It is critical that you speak with a physician before making these decisions so that you fully understand the meanings of the terms used and the potential consequences. Once these sections are filled out, they must be honored by all health care professions in Massachusetts, where clinically appropriate. The MOLST form is different from a Living Will or another document expressing your “final wishes” because it carries more authority and is more likely to be honored. A Living Will or final wishes document is only used by health care professionals to keep your wishes in mind when making decisions about treatment. While the MOLST form is not currently legally binding, health care professionals are strongly encouraged by the state to honor it.

Finally, Section G simply asks for the contact information of the health care agent. There is also room on the form for other treatment preferences, in which you can more clearly articulate your wishes. There is an expectation that the form will be reviewed throughout the patient’s life so that if his or her preferences change, those preferences will still be honored.

View a sample MOLST form here.

MOLST in Massachusetts from Commonwealth Medicine on Vimeo.

Elder Mediation: A Great Option to Diffuse Family Tensions When Planning for Elder Care

Can’t we all just get along?  

I see it more and more and it really saddens me: families unable to “get along” when it comes to decision making for elder loved ones. It can be as simple as whether Mom and/or Dad need to meet with an Elder Law Attorney, to concerns over finances and inheritance issues, to whether siblings agree on who should serve as primary caregiver, and/or to whether assisted living/nursing home care is necessary.

Often as family members age, family dynamics can become more complicated. Conflicts that have simmered below the surface can boil up and make conversation impossible. Sometimes the elders are involved in the discussions, but unfortuntately sometime they are too far gone to meaninfully participate.

Either way, even the most harmonized family can sometimes hit a bad note or two and require some assistance.

(Dun, dun, dun, dun!) Enter the Elder Mediator. Mediation provides an opportunity for the Elder and all concerned members of the family to participate in creating a thoughtful plan for future. In most cases Elder Law Attorneys can act as Elder Mediators with certain issues. However the scope of the disagreements can often rest in other issues that are not related to the elder law topic. An Elder Mediator, working closely with your Elder Law Attorney, is trained to assist families in identifying the real issues, separating them from the crucial issues of planning for elder care, and developing the best plan of care.

National Public Radio has recognized the usefulness of elder mediation for families dealing with aging issues.

As baby boomers age and options for their care increase, we will all face many difficult choices concerning how we handle transitions during our elders’ declining years. Families will have to be able to evaluate resources, options and develop flexible strategies to support their elders. Even when not legally competent to make decisions, it is important to include an elder’s wishes and expressed preferences when putting a plan into place. Elder mediation is a rational first step for families to help them address their changing needs while enhancing problem solving/communications skills and avoiding messy litigation.

Why I Also Make Housecalls

While some clients book traditional consultations at my office, I always make myself available for home visits with my clients. While the idea of a housecall has gone the way of black & white televisions, I find that meeting clients in their home, on their “turf,” helps make what is usually an emotional process, a bit more comfortable. In their home, clients tend to be more relaxed and at ease. The conversation goes a different way and I can sense the pride they have in sharing their home with someone. Coffee and tea flow more easily and taste better from your favorite mug than a styrofoam cup.

As an elder law attorney, our conversation eventually moves to the business at hand and it’s much much easier for a client to get an idea of what they’ll be leaving behind if the items are right there. Important paperwork is never forgotten as it’s right where the client always keeps it. Clients tend to be more thoughtful and less distracted when in a familiar environment. With so much legal language to deal with, it’s better for a client to be relaxed and more attentive.

Ultimately, a home visit allows me to get to know my client and understand their needs better. It gives me the chance to be attentive to them without outside distraction. With seniors, I can also see their current state of living, if they have all the things they need and maybe attend to some previously unaddressed issues. What many might see as a bother – a housecall – I consider an honor and a blessing.