Astor Matter Reminds Us that Trustworthiness is Essential When Nominating Substitute Decision Makers

Lately, the matter of Brooke Astor’s estate has been covered in the media. Like many people she had an estate plan in place which included a Durable Power of Attorney and Health Care Proxy, which nominated subsituted decision makers in the event she would lose the capacity to make important financial and/or medical decisions at some point during her elder years. She did not want to burden her family with obtaining a Guardianship and/or Conservatorship through the courts. She did end up suffering from Alzheimer’s disease and her son took over her financial powers. He just didn’t do a very good job…

The following is an exerpt from this week’s AZCentral.

Anyone who has signed a financial document has to be squirming a bit over Brooke Astor’s estate case.

Her son, Anthony Marshall, recently was convicted of stealing millions of dollars from Astor while she suffered from Alzheimer’s disease before her death. Although the case largely centered on a contested will purportedly signed by Astor, other estate-planning issues also came into play.

One was a financial power of attorney signed by Astor that gave Marshall authority to direct her affairs if she became incapacitated - and the means to steal from her.

The episode provides a wake-up call for people who use financial powers of attorney. These legal documents can be highly effective in ensuring that someone else will be around to handle financial matters for you if you’re alive but unable to do so - as in the case of mental incapacity.

A power of attorney can be as short as a page or much longer, depending on the detail desired. They’re often included with a trust, will, health power of attorney (addressing medical issues) and other estate-planning documents.

For all the benefits of using a power of attorney to avoid a potential court-supervised conservator situation, there are pitfalls, too.

In particular, you need to trust the person whom you designate to act on your behalf. And you should make sure he or she is responsible, diligent and reasonably astute.

“They really are documents that people should pay attention to,” said Denise McClain, a financial principal and attorney at wealth-management firm Lowry Hill in Scottsdale. “You’re potentially passing along a lot of power.”

Elder Mediation: A Great Option to Diffuse Family Tensions When Planning for Elder Care

Can’t we all just get along?  

I see it more and more and it really saddens me: families unable to “get along” when it comes to decision making for elder loved ones. It can be as simple as whether Mom and/or Dad need to meet with an Elder Law Attorney, to concerns over finances and inheritance issues, to whether siblings agree on who should serve as primary caregiver, and/or to whether assisted living/nursing home care is necessary.

Often as family members age, family dynamics can become more complicated. Conflicts that have simmered below the surface can boil up and make conversation impossible. Sometimes the elders are involved in the discussions, but unfortuntately sometime they are too far gone to meaninfully participate.

Either way, even the most harmonized family can sometimes hit a bad note or two and require some assistance.

(Dun, dun, dun, dun!) Enter the Elder Mediator. Mediation provides an opportunity for the Elder and all concerned members of the family to participate in creating a thoughtful plan for future. In most cases Elder Law Attorneys can act as Elder Mediators with certain issues. However the scope of the disagreements can often rest in other issues that are not related to the elder law topic. An Elder Mediator, working closely with your Elder Law Attorney, is trained to assist families in identifying the real issues, separating them from the crucial issues of planning for elder care, and developing the best plan of care.

National Public Radio has recognized the usefulness of elder mediation for families dealing with aging issues.

As baby boomers age and options for their care increase, we will all face many difficult choices concerning how we handle transitions during our elders’ declining years. Families will have to be able to evaluate resources, options and develop flexible strategies to support their elders. Even when not legally competent to make decisions, it is important to include an elder’s wishes and expressed preferences when putting a plan into place. Elder mediation is a rational first step for families to help them address their changing needs while enhancing problem solving/communications skills and avoiding messy litigation.

Guardianship Alternative for Minor Children Living With Non-Parent

Occasionally a minor child will end up living with someone else besides his or her parents. This could be temporary, semi-permanent, or permanent. Perhaps the parent is in the military and was called to active duty so the child goes to live with a grandparent. Maybe the parents have a health or substance abuse issues and an aunt/uncle take charge of the child. Or perhaps a child chooses to live with a relative so that they may attend a specific school.

In situations such as those it used to be that in order for the caregiver to have the authority they needed to deal with health care providers, medications, and the school systems, a Guardianship was needed. This process was costly, time consuming, and actually replaced the parent’s rights to make decisions for their children during the time that the guardianship remained in effect. A trip to the Probate Court was needed to initiate and terminate the process.

Currently there is a new law which allows a parent to give a caregiver (the person the child is living with) concurrent authority to make educational and health care decisions for the minor child. The Act Relative To Caregiver Education and Health Care Authorization allows a parent to authorize a person with whom their child is residing to “exercise concurrently the rights and responsibilities, except as prohibited by the parent, that the parent possesses relative to the education and health care of the minor children.”

The parents can specify any actions that the caregiver is not allowed to take, and the parents continue to retain their authority to take any and all actions related to their children’s health care and education. The form only needs to be signed by one parent so it can be used to grant limited powers to “step-parents” who are primarily available during school hours and/or who take the children to their medical appointments. This is a wonderful news for blended families with minor children. The parent’s decision supersedes the caregiver’s decision if there are any disputes. The caregiver signs an acknowledgment that they will not knowingly make any decision that conflicts with the decision of the child’s parent or other legal guardian.

The document remains in effect until the date specified by the parent, not to exceed 2 years and the powers can be changed or amended at any time by the parent. The document should be provided to the child’s school and health care providers.

This new law will go a long way to help those families who need some assistance in caring for their children, without needing a costly and inconvenient visit to the probate court.